venus: on softness, pleasure + working in resonance
For a couple of years now I have made an effort to exit from what I think is honestly a new form of hustle culture… the one where we are constantly “working on ourselves”, trying to fix xyz, trying to unpack our demons, make friends with our shadows and trudge through the mud as a badge of honor.
I am not advocating for bypassing and believe me, with a Scorpio stellium I am not one to ignore the darkness, nor do I think we should skim over it, stuff our feelings or pretend that things are not tough sometimes… I am known in my sessions for radical honesty which is often needed. I have seen many a client let out a big exhale after I share with them transits that are greatly impacting their lives, making things feel a bit intense, or a lot intense, feeling confusing or destabilizing. Or places in their chart that illustrate challenges they keep coming up against. It’s extremely helpful to know these things and understand how to work with the season we’re in. Practically. Not just as concepts floating in the ethers.
And, I think we can put too much focus on what is not working, what feels tough or what we feel like we need to change and not enough on what is flowing, our personal genius + gifts and where we can uniquely find ease. It’s balance.
The fixing fixation honestly often keeps us stuck in unhealthy and un-wealthy states. BECAUSE we are focusing on lack. Rather than being in devotion to what we desire to create. And there was never a better time than now to ask yourself - what are you devoted to?
The cosmic weather is supporting you. I love a season when we have both benefic planets (Venus + Jupiter) in places where they feel deeply resourced. Venus for another couple of weeks (in Taurus), but Jupiter for an entire year (into June of 2026 exalted in Cancer)- tapping into abundance and greater expansion thru safety and nourishment.
I recently did a poll on how folks most felt called to honor Venus in Taurus right now and the winners were: ‘re-membering that pleasure is my birthright’ and ‘working softer’ so I wanted to put together some threads to pull for each so that you can find the places in your chart and life right now (and always) that are inviting you to greater joy, expansion, pleasure and ease.
working softer
Letting it be easy. Receiving support. Moving at the pace of presence. Venus in Taurus doesn’t rush. It roots. And reminds us: softness is a strategy.
some placement to look to for alignment:
Venus placement (sign + house): How you attract, receive, and experience ease
2nd house: What you value and how you resource yourself
Earth placements (Taurus, Virgo, Capricorn) + gates: Where consistency and body-based rhythms want to guide the flow
Moon: Your inner world—can point to where softness may feel unfamiliar or necessary
Undefined Heart (HD): Where you may overprove—this is where softness can liberate you
Your 6th House: the home of your daily rhythms, routines and relationship to labor - and also how we care for the body. It can show where we unconsciously over-effort, seek perfection, or get stuck in hustle loops + how we create sustainable soft work flow.
Working softer looks like bringing ritual to your routine instead of rigidity. Reclaiming pace and process over productivity. Creating rhythms that feel nourishing - not depleting + honoring your body’s cues as part of your work flow.
🌀 Hot tip: Look at where Venus in Taurus is transiting in your chart — this house shows the arena where Venusian themes are being doubled down and activated right now.
remembering pleasure is your birthright
Reclaiming sensorial joy. Nourishment. Slowing down enough to savor. Pleasure isn’t the reward. It’s the portal.
some placements to look to for alignment:
Taurus placements (esp. Sun, Venus, Moon, or Rising): Natural attunement to beauty, touch, and ease
5th house: Where joy wants to move through you + what pleasure really means to you individually.
Venus + Jupiter placements and aspects: Pleasure and expansion are cosmically linked here.
Your defined Sacral Gates: Thru the lens of your sexuality, creativity, flow + vitality.
🌀 Hot tip: Look at where Jupiter in Cancer is transiting in your chart — this house shows the arena where Jupiter is bringing some blessings rippling out to your Sagittarius + Pisces houses. Jupiter is also bringing BIG FEELS and I share about that here.
I recently found out I was featured in Elle for a piece on scents that honor Taurus energy — and while that might seem like just a fun press mention, it hit deeper than that. Because scent, softness, sensuality — these are not surface level indulgences.
They truly are pathways to deeper alignment and more powerful creator-being energy. What we’re talking about here should not be a luxury. And many of us are unlearning the narrative —
“You have to push through to get ahead.”
“Hustle now so you can rest later.”
“If it looks too easy, you’re probably not doing enough.”
But what if ease wasn’t the enemy?
What if softness was a strategy?
When we let ourselves work soft and tap into pleasure as part of our daily rhythm - we’re not opting out of ambition. We’re choosing resonance over force.
We’re choosing to move at the speed of our system.
To create in alignment with our cycles.
To let beauty be part of the process, not just the byproduct.
Venus rules pleasure, yes.
But also preference.
Values. Connection. Attraction. What Makes Us Feel Deeply Resourced.
In the body, Venus is resonant with the parasympathetic nervous system — rest, repair, and receptivity. She softens the edges and reminds us we don’t have to chase our desires. We can become available to them.
To live Venus-first is to ask:
What would feel nourishing now, not just later?
How can I bring luxury or beauty to this moment (and the next)?
Where am I operating from performance instead of resonance?
What’s actually beautiful to me — not just what I’ve been told should be?
This doesn’t mean abandoning effort. It means choosing aligned effort.
Directed devotion.
Sacred slowness.
A Venusian Way to Self-Resource: Reading by Design
I got asked a question this week around reading by Design. It’s something that definitely brings me pleasure though it took me time to circle back to reading for pure joy and not just work (which is a different kind of pleasure). When I do, it feels deep nourishing.
Not just to learn — but to be with myself.
To regulate. To remember. To reconnect with what moves me.
And it’s fun to know and pull threads because the kind of reading that feels good to you - is written in your chart. Like a cosmic literary love language. When you read in alignment with your design, it becomes more than content. It becomes ceremony.
If you want to explore your own Reading Blueprint — I created a free guide that breaks it all down for you:
📥 Access Reading by Design: A Pleasure-Based Guide to Cosmic Storytelling
It’s a soft, soulful guide to decoding your chart through the lens of literary pleasure — perfect for anyone wanting to regulate, reattune, or simply revel in a book that meets you where you are.
what uniquely loves up on you
Maybe coming across this is your sign to remember:
Softness is a strength.
Pleasure is a portal.
You don’t have to prove anything to receive what’s yours.
Venus already gave it to you. Find somewhere within to connect to that part of yourself, with intention, every day. When we prioritize ease and bring focus to it, we amplify it in our live.
Want to go deeper into living Venus-first?
This is the work we do inside The Collective — my cosmic membership space for resourced living, realignment, and returning to what is yours.
We explore things like:
Cyclical creation, sacred success codes + embodied business
somatic manifestation + nervous system attunement
astro insights, Human Design, and elemental tools that actually support your body and life by design, not default.
If you want to integrate the kind of softness that changes everything, you can join the membership here.
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